How Do I Set Up My Child’s Services at Our New Duty Station?


The dust is finally starting to settle down on our pcs roller coaster ride. The boxes are almost unpacked and I’m starting to get the layout of the land. The first important step I need to take next is to set up our children’s services. But how do I do that? Well I am here to give you a little help.

If you didn’t know- once you change Tricare regions you will need to get all new prescriptions for your referrals. We went from TriWest to TriNorth, because we switched Tricare regions we have to get new referrals before our children are able to start receiving services again. Which means we had to go to our new PCM to get the new referrals to our specialists to get the new referrals for our services and prescriptions.

I would suggest calling to make a appointment with your child’s PCM ASAP. If you are unable to get a realistic appointment day scheduled, try asking if they have a clinic case manager or speaking with someone at the base patient advocacy department. For example, we arrive mid July. We were given an appointment date of mid August. Bug has a rare medical condition that requires mail ordered supplies and medication. We would be out of those items if we waiter until the system worked. Therefore, I had to call the base patient advocacy who informed me they actually have clinic case managers. The case manager was able to get us next day appointments. Now all our referrals to their new specialists have been placed and we even have scheduled a few appointments with the specialists.

It really just takes time and patience. One last piece of advice is to alert all parties involved of your move. A month prior to our pcs I informed the medical supply company that we would be moving. They were then able to alert the new branch of our incoming and our needs. This worked well as the new branch called us and set up a delivery before we even seen by the specialist. They also called our insurance to see what needed to be done on their end to speed the process along.

A Parents Dilemma: To Tell or not to Tell Your Your Child about Their Diagnosis


I’ve written before about a question some parents of children of ASD share- when and do we tell our children about their diagnosis.

There is a debate related to it. What does it benefit the child if we tell them? Some argue that it can cause low self esteem in children who might already feel depressed, upset or confused about themselves. The other side to the argument is some children might feel relief to know there is a diagnosed problem and it is not just a feeling. With confessing to them their diagnosis comes understanding about themselves and might make it easier for the child to manage their life. Whatever side you are on, I don’t feel there is a right side. They say “if you’ve seen one child with Autism, you have seen one child with Autism”. Every child is different; nuero typical or not. You have to decide for yourself whether your child could handle the reveal.

However, that pops a new question into my mind. Does that mean we are deceiving our children by not telling them?

I know, just recently, Bug has announced he is different than other people. His reasons are infantile and childish; he likes watching tv a lot. I want to correct him and explain that he is different. But so is Diva and SB. SB is cray cray! But I feel that parent guilt again. Am I lying to my child?

Bug is quite different from Diva. He sees the world in black and white. There are rules to follow for everything and if not he makes up his own rules to follow. He is book smart and doesn’t have a lot of common sense. He doesn’t express emotions. I want to tell him his deep secret I’ve been keeping for him. I feel he could handle it. I even feel it could help him understand why he knows he is different.

I think that’s it. I think the key to deciding if you tell your child is if they notice they are different. If they can access there is a difference between themselves and others, I think they could benefit from knowing it’s not bad to be and feel different.

Luckily, last week I was blessed with a few materials to help me blab my secret to Bug. During a EFMP intake meeting for our new duty station, we were given a bag full of great resources and books including Say Hello To Me by April Charisse and Since We’re Friends by Celeste Shally. Both children’s books depict the main character as having ASD.

It maybe not be the right decision for your child, but at this point, I feel it is the right one for mine. I know it will come with a lot of questions but I hope it will give him a lot of answers.

Of course I’ll keep you all updated on how it goes and right now I’m out of vodka to help me after the process; so it might be a few days before I get to it.

Organizing Our Chaos: Summer Hiatus


Yesterday I posted about my summer abroad visiting family and loving life back on the mainland after FOUR YEARS (I still can’t get over that!) of island living. I’ve been sporadic with my posting and begging my co-blogger to help out. She has been amazing, but now we both are at the point mid-summer where we are just having to much fun and enjoying our family.

As you know we are a family blog. We love to share our funny, positive stories along with how to manage and organize chaos while raising children with special needs with a dash of being military wives. Enjoying your family, despite diagnosises, is our most important point we like to make. Furthermore, because of that we can going to cut back on our daily posts to live what we preach. Hopefully, we can provide you with new entertaining stories like Dirty Water and Manhood. Take the rest of the summer to read some past articles and familiarize yourself more with who we are and what we our mission.

Mommy Moment Mondays: A Summer Abroad


Is it over yet? Is it time to pawn my children off at school and take more than a 3 minute power nap? If I fall asleep on the toilet one more time I might commit myself. Our summer break has been anything but; however, it is for all the best reasons- our family.

The most popular question we get asked is “do we miss Hawaii?” Our answer; no. Our course even that answer comes with some caveats. Who wouldn’t miss day after day of perfect 82 humidity free sunny weather? However, as I have said before- even paradise has it’s draw backs. The only and biggest drawback was of course not being close by family. Missing family is more than just missed birthdays, births, life and even death.

We made the point of this summer catching up with everyone we could. We didn’t even have time to visit with half our family and friends we haven’t see in the past FOUR YEARS, however, we did what we could.

Not only did we visit family and friends, we showed our children our old stomping grounds. They are too young to understand the significance of a location to us, but it made Hubs and I proud to be able to finally let them play in the parks we did, see our elementary school, and hometown highlights. Even if your children can’t talk, see, hear or understand an importance of a memory tied to a location; show them. They might surprise you and nevertheless, don’t deny yourself of those feelings and emotions.










On-the-go with ASD

Wordy Wednesday…Schedules on-the-go
We know kiddos with ASD (and often times, their mothers too) do much better when their is a schedule. It helps them know what to expect and it can lower their feelings of anxiety. We are getting ready for a fourth of July road trip, which can always be challenging. It reminded me of a post I did almost a year ago about some tricks to help kiddos with ASD when travelling and even to maintain a schedule during a regular day at home. I thought it was worth sharing again. Hope everyone is having a great day! As always, let me know your thoughts and any tricks-of-the-trade that have worked in your home 🙂

So, I have been blessed with two little boys, and there are not very many dull moments in our house.  Between our military lifestyle and both our boys being diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), things can get a bit chaotic.  We move and travel quite a bit, and even when we are on the home-front for a while, the days are filled with lots of therapy appointments, playgroups, etc…All of that said, we are “on-the-go” constantly.  That can cause anxiety in any kid and for a child with ASD, it can be especially hard.  They can have a hard time understanding the passage of time, and while waiting can be difficult for any child, it can be especially excruciating for them.  We especially had trouble when we were running more than one errand at a time (library, stopping for lunch, picking up prescriptions, etc…)

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