How would you react? Your hands would start to shake, your breathing will pick up, your eyes will dilate and your heart will race. At least that is what happened to me when I got that call from Hubs, “I just walked out of my Commanders office; he just gave me 30 minutes to call you and decide our future”.
A bit of a back story- Hubs job will soon be obsolete. There is no set time line; but we are told to expect a very fast paced exit. Hubs is in a place in his career where he needs to advance to stay competitive. However, how can he stay competitive in a career field that is ceasing to exist. This is the question we had 30 minutes (over a phone!); to decide where we go from here.
He was given three choices. Try having that conversation over the phone. It’s hard! I’m a people reader. I relie heavily on reading peoples facial expressions. I can’t do that over the phone. Panic hit. How am I suppose to help make a choice that will effect our family; our future?
It wasn’t. 30 minutes is not enough time. Even 5 days later we are still trying to make a decision. However, we did have to make a choice and provide his Commander with an answer. Was it the right answer? No idea. When will we find out? No idea. It’s a choice we had to make and a decision we have to live with.
There are so many factors we need to take into consideration. It’s not just “let’s move. It’s a new adventure!”. It’s more like “we have to transfers the ieps, we need recommendations for new specialists, we need to contact the pharmacy and get a stock pile of medications and supplies, we need to research schools, interview new ABAs, set up a new respite worker; and so on”.
What do they say? Focus on the journey, not the destination. I will try, however, it seems the journey will be a long and arguious one.