Adult Afraid of Cinderella. Loaded Gun Found in Disney World Ride

The debate of the right to conceal and carry in our household and in our family is a huge one. As I mentioned before Hubs is a solider, and yes he owns guns. But no, he doesn’t have a permit to conceal and carry. And it’s a very heated debate that gets raised more commonly in our family during large family gatherings.

I of course don’t see a need to conceal and carry. Do we honestly live in a world where carry a element that will/can kill another human in a instant is a must? Most who have conceal and carry permits feel it is a MUST. That there is no other solution. I also guess they have never met a U.S. Marine. —> because this writer right here has been told they can kill in 5-7 seconds with just their hands. So why do you need a gun? Ill just have Hubs with me at times I feel I need a little extra security. And Disney Worls is not one of them. Who are you afraid of? A pimple popping teen in a bear costume?

That’s why when I read this story, I opening opened up Pandora’s box to discuss conceal and carry with Hubs. Surprisingly he agree, Disney World isn’t a place you need to bring a gun. I can name several other places; but ill stop myself from climbing a soap box. For now, or at least until the next person decides to make headlines by bringing a conceal weapon and leaving it in a pew in a church for a kid to find.

Read about how a grandma found a fully loaded gun lost by a man with a conceal and carry permit at DISNEY WORLD here

DIY Window Film Application

We are still getting settled in our new house and are really liking it!  We are noticing, however, that the sun rises early here.  Really, really early.  At our elevation, it is super bright too.  Not a bad thing, I guess, but we were looking for a way to block some of the sunlight pouring into our bedroom at the wee hours of the morning.

ImageWe have one big window in our room with blinds, and those work great.  The problem lies in these two smaller “accent” windows on either side of our dresser.  The problem is that while they let a lot of natural light in without comprising our privacy, it was a little too much natural light.  I didn’t want to hang curtains, but I wasn’t sure of how to solve my dilemma.

Hubby and I were at Home Depot getting some other stuff when we were in the window treatment department and saw these “window films” and application kits.

ImageThey had a ton of different patterns to choose from, but we picked “Magnolia.”

ImageI was a little unsure because I had never used anything like this before, but I thought I’d give it a try.  I bought two packages of the window films which is way more than I should have needed.  I have learned from my past DIY projects that there is nothing more frustrating than to be in the middle, make a mistake, and not have enough supplies to finish.  

Turns out the application was very easy!  Measure your window and cut the film to size.  You want it just  a hair shy of your actual window measurements, the package gives exact suggested amount.  Then get the window clean and dry, use the spray bottle to wet it down.  Peel the backing off your film and apply to your window.  The handy little tool in the application kit helps to get out any bumps.  Viola!  That’s it!  It was a great solution for us because I didn’t want to put up more curtains.  Plus, we are renting so when it comes time for us to move out, we just peel them off with no damage to the windows or walls.  

ImageThe film is pretty sturdy so it doesn’t constantly peel off or move like I thought it might.  It does help to soften the sunlight coming in too.  Now, hopefully I can get more beauty sleep!






We Are Army Strong- part 2 Helping ASD Kids Understand Memorial Day

Yesterday I shared with you a sampling of what it is like as a military family and all the emotions that come along with it. I also shared how I wanted to educate and explain those feelings to my two ASD kids. It is already a challenge to explain a holiday that has such a significant meaning in our lives, let alone trying to explain a intangible emotion and holiday to children who don’t understand emotions and feelings.
Instead of telling them all about the pride and love we have for our military the best way to help them understand is to give everything a tangible format. I know with my kids they do not do grey. They take everything at face value and sarcasm and jokes are lost on them. But for them to be able to “see” how much we care, I thought up a few ways to show them.

First, define. We are in the “why” stage of life with two of our kids. Why is the grass green? Why can’t we fly? We do we have to take a shower? Personally I love giving sarcastic answers, but that won’t fly. Ill just be barrated with more questions. I learned fast simple and honest answers are the best for ASD kids. They want book answers not sarcastic one (and I have some great answers to those questions!)

So- what is Memorial Day?
me·mo·ri·al day
A day, the last Monday in May, on which those who died in active military service are remembered.
(in the Southern states) Any of various days (esp. the fourth Monday in April) for similar remembrances.

Notice how it specifically says “those who died”. Memorial Day is not the same as Veterans Day, where we celebrate all those who have served; living and passed.

Simply put- Memorial Day we remember those men and women who have died but at one time served in the military. That’s it. Nothing more. No grey.

Next, visual. My kids have amazing memories (it’s a blessing and a curse) but every memory or emotion they do know is tied to a visual cue. Most parents of ASD kids know about visual cues. My kids ABA’s use them constantly.

In order to help kids understand Memorial Day better we need to attach a visual cue to the memory and emotion we want to them experience. Ideas can include volunteering to place flags at military cemetery’s, making cards to donate to nursing homes for Veterans, visiting local VFW halls and bake cookies and brownies to take to local Veterans hospitals. Having the kids involved in making something to give away to a veteran is a great way to connect a memory to Memorial Day.

There are numerous other ways to get your child involved and thinking about the meaning behind Memorial Day. There is a Medal of Honor coloring book that explains the awards and medals. And what kid doesn’t like coloring and cool medals!

Lastly, the most impactful is hearing. Even if you child is nonverbal and non attentive, most still hear the everyday nosies that surround them. This Memorial Day play some of America’s songs. Such as the Star Spangled Banner and America the Beautiful. Hearing the songs, feeling the rhythm and beat can be just as powerful as a memory invoker as baking cookies and being told the encyclopedia definition.

If your child does like story telling and listening to the spoken word, I highly recommend trying to find a veteran who is willing to share their story.

I have two ASD children on the higher end of the spectrum. Most of what I suggested is gear towards their learning level. Please take that into consideration and adjust activities as needed. We want our children to grasp at least a small part of what Memorial Day is about. We don’t want them to end up frustrated for more than what its worth. I hope this gave some of you ideas you can share in your own home. I know today we will be remembering the fallen in ours.

We Are Army Strong

Hubs has worn many different uniforms. He’s been a bagger at a grocery store, the UPS man, and Chinese food delivery driver. His last uniform he puts on every day, lacing his boots, putting on patches and straightening his collar. It is the last uniform he will ever wear. His uniform taught him respect is earned. It taught him hard work does pay off. It taught both of us that family isn’t just those blood related. It has also taught us that life and our freedoms should never be taken for granted.

Hubs is a United States soldier. He was also a Marine. We learned in the USMC that once a Marine always a Marine and have never forgotten that code. We learned that having freedom can be a scary thing. Especially when freedom allows you the rights to fight and the right to die. But in the Army is where we became a family. In the Army is where we will teach and encourage our children to fight for their freedoms (at home) and learn about the emotions you can experience.

Being a military family we experience a gamut of emotions in our lives. Excitement about moving to a new base; fear about moving to a new base. Sadness leaving old friends behind; joy in meeting new friends. Loss when family members back home pass away or experience a joy in their lives you wish you could be present for. Loss for when a “family” member here doesn’t come home after a deployment. The butterflies in your stomach when you see your husband for the first time in a year and the feeling of him seeing his new daughter for the first time.

We, as a family, have experienced it all. But as a mother of two ASD children; how do you teach those emotions? I want them to experience all the positive feelings Hubs and I have (not always the negative) but I want them to also understand the reason behind why people cry at a 21 gun salute or put their hand over their heart when they see a American flag at half staff.

I am proud of my husband. I am proud of our Army family. We are truly a strong and unique group. In the coming blog posts I hope to open up about my experiences a bit more. I want everyone to understand that you can do it. It? Anything. I made it through what should have been a year that broke me. But solely knowing that someone has walked my path before and someone will walk it behind me; pushed me to move forward and walk by faith.

Tomorrow, I will post ways to help your ASD child understand the meaning behind Memorial Day. I will do it not just so my own will understand, but in hopes you share it with yours. Knowledge is power and being empowered means a life worth living.